I wish some people weren’t so insensitive when it comes to doing better than others in academics.
If you understand the material, then good for you. It’s not necessary to put down others and exclaim how easy it is while they’re struggling for help. “What do you have problem with? It’s so easy!”
You have to understand that people learn at a different pace. Sometimes, not even that. They might be weaker in a subject you’re strong in, in a subject you have more knowledge in. On the other hand, you might be weaker in a subject they’re strong in.
Don’t look down on someone unless you’re helping them up because someday, you might need their help.
As obvious as it may be, we are not all the same. I wish some people got that through their heads. We were all brought up differently; attending different schools with different teachers, and childhood consisting of hobbies different than other children.
While it is surprising to others that I have literally never seen a Disney classic in my life, it never bothered me. Some would gasp and start naming movies and I would shake my head—even though I repeatedly emphasized “literally never seen a Disney classic.” It was funny though when I used that as my introduction and everyone in my discussion gasped. Another example of the point I’m trying to make, one of my friends had his first big mac and while you might gasp and wonder “how can that be? You’re an American!” this just goes to show that—
not so surprise, surprise—we’re all different.
Accept it: WE ALL EXPERIENCE THINGS DIFFERENTLY AND AT DIFFERENT TIMES.
So yes, you bragging about how easy you passed the class without having to read or attend lecture doesn’t make you sound smart. You just sound pretentious and arrogant and nobody likes that.
When people look down on others because of what they’re majoring in.
“What? Psychology majors don’t do anything. They have the chill class.” Well, excuse me. You take one intro to psychology class and you assume everything from there on is easy?
“She’s a dance major? No wonder her GPA is high.”
“English major? What are you gonna do with that?”
“Art major? Are you serious? You just draw?”
Oh, you’re a bio major? You’re a business major? Chem major? I was taught if I have nothing nice to say, then don’t say it, so I won’t.
But who are you to assume what I study is easy? How do you know you will be more successful than me just because of where we start off at the beginning? No, my major doesn’t require as many math and science classes as yours, but that doesn’t mean we’re slacking off. We’re working just as hard.
The only thing that matters is what we make of it, what we will become.
Why did you choose your current major? Because you see yourself with a future? Yes, so do we all.
I didn’t choose psychology because it was “easy.”
I like talking to people about their problems if it means the weight will be lifted off their shoulders. I might not have the best advice, but I want to understand what they’re going through and I want to be the ears and shoulders they need. I want to be the person who they can open up their hearts to, because we all need that. I’ve been told by people that they will be here for me, but when I go to them, they’re “too busy.” I will never be too busy for someone who needs me.
I chose to study psychology because it will help me understand people better.
My point is, don’t try to predict somebody else’s future based on what they’re studying. Worry about your own.
Can’t believe I wrote this in ‘11. I’m still dealing with these people
It’s okay to have time to yourself and let the tears out. If you’re one to hold everything in, seeming calm and collected throughout the day, it’s okay to randomly burst into tears. There’s only so much you can hold in.
There’s going to be those days where you just stare into space and start bawling. There’s going to be those days where you kick yourself down and blame the world. There’s going to be those days where you just ask why, why, why? There’s going to be those days where you hate the world and have no reason why.
Just remember, you’re not alone.
You’re strong. You’ve gotten this far and you’ve held in so much. Think about it. Think about all the crap you’ve gone through in the [your age] you’ve been alive. Family, friends, relationships, academic, work, etc. If you need to let some tears out, don’t be afraid to. It’s healthy. Much healthier than keeping it in.
If you need a shoulder, I’m here :) Anon/stranger or not, my inbox will be open if you need to vent or talk.
It’s finals week here so everyone is stressing out.
Take it little by little and you’ll be well off. Don’t forget to get some rest. Pulling all nighters won’t be as effective as taking a short nap in between studies. For the sake of your health (and grades), nap! Power nap!
Also, remember to eat healthy food. Snack on fruits or carrot/celery sticks. They’re disgusting (to me) but they will help so much. Sugar and salt will just make you tired and crash and crave for more.
:) GOOD LUCK.
Remember to take a break if you feel burnt out. Don’t push yourself too hard.
I agree, there’s so much to do with only so many hours and you just have to get it done. But give yourself some free time. Take a nap (power nap, even), go out for a walk, take your mind off school/work for an hour or two. Work out!
Don’t throw more than you can handle on your plate. It might make you feel productive and “adequate” but if that means constantly stressing out, you’re better off limiting yourself. Some people like seeing their schedules and agenda filled up because that makes them feel like they’re making use of their time.
But again, if that means having to juggle more than you can handle and you find yourself constantly stressing out or burning out, that’s very unhealthy. Stress can lead to mental health disorders (depression is common; anxiety, too), skin problems, heart disease, diabetes/obesity, and other problems.
Don’t give yourself a hard time if you feel like you’re not doing something as well as you think you should (especially within a limited time). If you’re trying your best, that’s what matters. Give yourself a pat on the back. Don’t kick yourself down for trying. There’s only so much you can do. I’m not telling you to give up, shrug it off and walk away with a “meh, I tried.”
Take it little by little. Day by day.
Doesn’t matter what it is. Acing a class? Bringing up your GPA? Riding a bike? Cooking?
All experts were once beginners.
And just something from my own personal experience: if you see someone stressing out, do not compare your schedule (or your abilities) to theirs. “My schedule’s more hectic.” “That’s nothing compared to mine.” “That’s not even hard!” “If I can do it, you can.”
That’s just……… really?
Be supportive. Be a friend.
Good luck to you :)
Times like these that I am extremely proud to be a UCR student and a member of Circle K International. :)
In high school, a lot of us just did community service hours because it was “mandatory,” and it would “look nice on our college applications.” But once you actually get into college, community service starts to become, well, voluntary (as it should be). I get up early in the morning on weekends to give back to the community, even though I could sleep in. Community service is a choice, and honestly, it feels so much better when you choose to do it.
Actually, some people are doing it because they need hours for their frats and whatnot. But yeah, in high school I dreaded community service. Waking up early, going to meetings, etc. But now, it makes me happy. Because while I’m volunteering, as cliche as it may sound, it makes me smile when I see others smile.
Being selfless, giving back to the community, doing your part—it really feels good.
I’m glad to say that I’ve always associated myself with the “right crowd.”
Because of them, my life has been smooth and drama-free; I’m happy and healthy. I never let peer-pressure get the best of me. I don’t care for popularity. Not the kind that people seek nowadays. I like being unique; I like being myself.
It took a while to find real friends who love me for me. I didn’t have to change a thing about myself. It took a while, but it was sure as hell worth it.
I don’t like the idea of sororities and clubbing and drinking. That’s not my kind of thing. If it’s your kind of thing, then so be it. Just stop trying to persuade me to go along.
My high school friends know that I used to dislike hanging out with a big group. That’s because, from experience, big groups are loud, wild, and annoying. And if you’re not close with the group, you’ll feel left out.
It wasn’t until a while ago that I went out with a different group and boy were there a lot of us. It was different, though. These people were mature. It was so weird for me. Not to mention these were the people I was referring to when I meant “right crowd.”
They’re motivational, understanding, inspiring, and for once in my life, the people who made an effort to get to know me and actually remembered my name were all from this group. They keep away from trouble and drama. They do well in school, volunteer, and are just the friendliest people you will ever meet. <3